Tuesday, June 9, 2015

Attachment Pareting - My Sister Might Be One of These Moms

Julie Ogawa


Attachment Parenting - Even my Sister

With Attachment Parenting in the News, I saw this mom on the Today Show this morning. To be honest, it creeps me out. When my nephews were growing up, I was always offended when Julie, my custodial-embattled sister contemplating a divorce allowed her young son to sleep in her bed for a very long time. Later, after the divorce, the child slept with her until he was twelve or thirteen. I don't really know what that was all about but it sounds like a form of Attachment Parenting or co-sleeping.

When her other son was say seven, he use to cry when his mother left town. In fact he use to throw a temper tantrum that he wanted his mom. I never really understood that either.

It also appeared to me that Jamie Lynne Grumet, didn't have many boundaries with her child. On the other hand, on the Today Show Television Set, even Nadya Suleman (Octo-Mom) didn't appear to have too many boundaries with her children -- and either did or does my sister.

My own personal opinion is that the Time Magazine Photo is and always will be creepy as well as this concept of Attachment Parenting. Time Magazine could have elected to blur the photo of this child's face and the mom could have not used her child in this manner by going on the Today Show, but that didn't happen.

Here are some links about this story:

Jamie Lynn Grumet's Official Blog  

Dr. Bill Sears Website on Attachment Parenting

If you haven't seen the video clip:




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Time Magazine
The Today Show

Attachment Parenting: The Man Who Remade Motherhood

Dr. Bill Sears drives some parents to extremes. Even they might be surprised by the roots of attachment parenting

Joanne Beauregard is nothing so much as she is a mother. When she and her husband had trouble conceiving, Joanne quit her job as an accountant to focus full time on getting pregnant. When she did, she chose to give birth at home, without pain medication. Then, for months, Beauregard sat on the couch in her Denver-area living room, nursing her infant from sunup to sundown. …

Elk Grove woman accused of embezzling from mother’s trust funds

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An Elk Grove woman accused of embezzling more than $129,000 from her 85-year-old mother’s trust funds has been arrested by Rocklin police. Christine Ann Cooper, 62, as account trustee, allegedly embezzled the funds over a nine-year period, according to a Police Department news release. She is accused of writing checks to herself from the accounts and falsifying account statements to conceal the theft. Police said Cooper was arrested without incident Tuesday morning at her place of business in Sacramento. She was taken to the Placer County Jail in Auburn, where she was booked on suspicion of elder abuse/theft from an elder, embezzlement of more than $400 and forgery.

Read more here: http://www.sacbee.com/news/local/crime/article23065596.html#storylink=cpy

Others Articles:

Is A Family Member Ripping Off Your Aging Parent (Forbes 04/22/2013)

The Ultimate Betrayal (Consumer Reports, 01/2013)

After Lying and Embezzling from her Mother's Estate, Daughter is Jailed by Jennifer King (2-2-2012)

Woman charged with trust fund embezzlement held on $25,000 by Brigitte Ruthman (10-2-2010)

Here is a list from Forbes Magazine of Warning Signs.

1. A family member becomes secretive about the parent’s finances

In this case, a long standing pattern of making Mom’s books available to all 3 siblings was altered. Carrie knew what Mom’s regular expenses were and what she spent every month. Mom is 87. When Carrie got excluded from online access to Mom’s accounts, it raised a red flag.

2. A family member lives with the parent and depends on the parent for financial support.

Carrie’s brother Jack lives with Mom. He has a job, but Mom pays all his bills. This has gone on for some time. Now, he’s using Mom’s credit card and he apparently doesn’t want Carrie to see what he’s spending. Sometimes this situation is a recipe for abuse because it’s just too easy to rip off the aging parent, who is vulnerable to manipulation.

3. A family member begins to isolate the aging parent from others.

When there is anyone blocking visits, restricting access of other family members to the elder, it’s another red flag. The potential abuser doesn’t want anyone looking too closely at what is going on and the method to avoid scrutiny is to keep the elder away from the other family members.

4. An adult child insists on being present when anyone else is with the aging parent.

This can be a sign that an adult child is threatening the aging parent if he/she talks about the financial manipulation that the elder knows is going on. If the elder has concerns, the abuser doesn’t want the aging parent to reveal this to anyone and may have frightened the elder into silence.

5. A family member has a substance abuse problem and has influence over an aging parent with memory problems.

Drug and alcohol dependency can make a liar out of just about anyone who has this issue. Memory impaired aging parents are “easy pickings” for money to support the dependency habit. The adult child or other relative uses the relationship with the elder to manipulate “loans” out of the elder and the elder forgets what happened or can’t make sense of it but says yes.

6. Sudden change in estate planning documents, particularly Durable Power of Attorney, Trustee or signatory on a bank or brokerage account.

Cognitive impairment begins subtly at first, but the elder is vulnerable to manipulation even in the earliest stages of dementia. When names on legal documents suddenly get added or removed, it is a suspicious sign, particularly if there is no obvious need to make such changes.

7. Kidnapping and moving the elder to an adult child’s home without notice to anyone or discussion with anyone else.

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Would You Be Willing To Report A Family Member For Financial Elder Abuse?

Here's a link to an article in Forbes from November 2014.

Would You Be Willing To Report A Family Member For Financial Elder Abuse?


It would take some nerve to report an abusive family member to law enforcement. We also know from the National Center on Elder Abuse that most abusers are family members. And they tell us that only 44 out of 1000 instances of abuse are reported to authorities. Why aren’t more cases reported to the very authorities capable of stopping the abusers?

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Can you Trust a Cheater?

I have a sister Jo Ann that cheated on her first husband. I think you can tell much about a person's character after an event like that. Today, she lacks integrity and character. I think there might be selfish gene in her DNA.

Tuesday, May 13, 2014

Colonoscopy Side Effects - Runny Nose from Oxygen

Recently, I was given Propofol (Michael Jackson's Med) during a Colonoscopy and when I woke up in the Hospital Recovery Room, I had a runny nose. Additionally, I noticed that my face was very red around in the area around my nose. That night, I had a really terrible headache (probably the Propofol) until I finally took some Tylenol. But 48 hours later, I was still sneezing and had that runny nose. Despite several sinus washes per day (using my Netti Pot) I was still very uncomfortable. When I finally called the doctor, he told me that it was caused by the the unfiltered oxygen that was used in the tubes of my nose. I don't recollect having this issue during my first Colonoscopy. I will say that the runny nose was probably worse than the Gatorade and Pre-Colonoscopy Colon Cleanse. At least with the Colon Cleanse, I saw the benefit in shedding a few pounds. There is no benefit to a runny nose. The next time I am in the Hospital and they ask me if I had any allergies, I am going to tell them about the 48+ Hour Runny Nose. We'll see if they do things differently. Unfortunately, with today's medical care, a patient must sometimes be his or her own quarterback. Reference: Photo from Wikipedia

Monday, November 21, 2011

Davis, CA / UCD - Pepper Spraying Protesters In Davisville

I grew up in Davis, CA in the '60s and '70s. Most Americans were unaware of this small quaint town that I use to refer to as a one cow town in Northern California that is home to the University of California at Davis (an enrollment of 32K students, 24K undergrads). That was until Friday, November 18th when UC Davis Protesters were sprayed with Pepper Spray at the UC Davis Quad. In this age of citizen journalism, this story has gone global with millions of views on YouTube and is now the hot story in the National Media.

After this incident, I saw a health blog The Health Effects of Pepper Spray in the Wall Street Journal by Katherine Hobson that notes that there is some medical research that indicates that pepper spray can result in a health hazard.

The U.C. Davis Medical School is ranked no. 42 in the Country (US News and World Reports) and certainly

UC Davis Chancellor Linda Katehi and UC Chief Spicuza certainly had all the educational and medical resources available to them before ordering UC Police in full riot gear to remove the protesters with or without pepper spray. The U.C. Davis Medical School is ranked 42nd in the Country (US News and World Reports). So when Lt. John Pike administered the pepper spray to UC students, you have to ask what type of formal training he had prior to this incident and who gave the direct order (Who Ordered the Pepper Spray?) and we all know that former Marine like Lt. John Pike follow orders.

UC Davis Protesters Sprayed with Pepper Spray, November 18, 2011 #UCD #pepperspray

Occupy Portland Woman Pepper Sprayed - November 17, 2011

New York Pepper Spray September 24, 2011 #OccupWallStreet #pepperspray

As I relaying to a friend earlier this morning while I was reading the UC Davis Pepper Spray hourly updates on a former classmate's Facebook wall, this incident has now definitively put Davis on the map. Previously, some may have known Davis for the '60s Blocking of Arms Shipment in the Vietnam War Protests that made Life Magazine in the early '70s; the Allan Bakke, Reverse Discrimination Supreme Court Case of a 32 year old former Marine who sued as a White Male to get into the UC Davis Medical School; and Ken O'Brien the infamous Quarterback and 24th pick by the New York Jets in the 1983 NFL Draft (5th Quarterback) from UC Davis, a former Division II School behind John Elway and ahead of Dan Marino.

So now U.C. Davis is known as the Pepper Spray School ...